I live in the small town that I moved to two days after my college graduation. I thought I would stay for 2 years or so and then move to a larger city to pursue my design career.
And then I fell in love. And got married. And had 3 children. 27 years later and I’m still here.
When I went thru my divorce I promised my ex I would stay here until the kids got out of high school so that he could be a part of their lives every day. He was a big part of their lives. So we stayed.
Two years ago when he died unexpectedly the kids needed the stability of their friends and so did I. So we stayed.
Next May when my youngest daughter graduates from high school I won’t have to stay. They will all be in college, and I’m 99% sure that they won’t be coming back here. I will be free to decide where I want to live and what I want to do, for the first time in my adult life. And I don’t know that I’ll have the courage to make the big changes.
I manage design and construction projects, and everything I do has a project plan, a spreadsheet, milestones and deliverables. My 12 month plan does too. It outlines the work necessary for me to be prepared to make big changes when these 12 months are up. I’ll go into greater detail later, but suffice it to say the plan is thorough. (And of course it comes with beautiful spreadsheets & schedules – I do believe in pretty)
My kids? They are remarkable. They’ve encouraged me to GO and DO whatever I choose. And BE whomever I choose to be while they are moving on to college & careers. It's great to have their support.
Being a parent is the most important thing I will ever do, but it's not supposed to be the only thing. Soon the day to day work of parenting will be over. And I need to be ready.